The Black Man: Can he Love You and Your Hair?

I like being unique in my blog posts but it has come to mind that women with natural hair or those considering becoming natural are concerned about the men that will like them!

Well, in my opinion, let the man come to you. If a guy I find attractive brushes me off and doesn't seem interested, I let it be.

If it is meant to be, it will be. This ensures that I won't create any opening for a future heart ache that could have been avoided by minding my own business which is to not pursue him if he finds what I represent by the way I dress, act or wear my hair is not his style.

In the past, as I am a college student, I have met and dated briefly a man of my total dreams. The kind of guy that in high school was the big shot, the most popular and who everyone wanted to hang with and yes he is black.
He liked my hair! I wanted to trim it very short and that was the only issue he had, lol.

Overall,
This life you lead is not for a man. I can testify to that because when I get dressed and ready to go in the morning, thinking about what a man or my man would think I look like is far from my mind and I still attract lots of men every day.

One day I wore a head wrap, and was looking my worst in my opinion and this dude tried to holla at me.

It's the inner beauty and confidence that shines or even that I-don't-care-attitude and I-don't-even-notice-you-looking-at-me attitude (but don't include the nasty attitude lol) that sometimes draws men in. Think about that next time you, you encounter this issue: Can he Love You and Your Hair? ;)

My Birth Day passed and I got no closer to my journey

December 23rd was my birth day and this date is a blessing because I was born on a Saturday (my favorite day) and the number 23 is such a beautiful number to me. So I feel I have a deep connection to my birth date and everything that surrounded it.

However, the days before and after my birth day this year were days that were chaotic and seemed to last for far too long then it needed to be.

I will not bore you with details. As, at this time, that I am writing this post (1:42am), it is hard to even formulate a story that could wrap up all of those days up into a paragraph.

I will simply state that I am unsure of my future. Only dreams are alive.
What is a birth day good for anyways?
I believe it is good to reflect and to think of the past year and what you have accomplished.

I am a college student who moved back home from going to a school 5 hrs away.I do not want to be normal, and have never been normal. I am the weird girl, who's quiet because I do not wish to get my dreams crushed by the robotic thinking that people sometimes have.

So what have I accomplished this past year?

Um... yeah, I didn't reflect, so wait a bit.....uhmm......
I need to MEDITATE on this.
And I suggest you do the same.
If you really are interested. Send me a comment and I will be candid.

Amla hair oil: First to Mention

I was the first to mention Amla hair oil on the natural scene and I have more news to mention.

Amla hair oil is at times cheap.
The cheapest one probably is Dabur Amla oil which actually contains mineral oil, or paraffin oil whatever you want to call that oil that clogs up the scalp and prevents any nutrients to penetrate the below the surface.

Most Dabur products are not natural or organic so I would not recommend using them. I recently bought Dabur Amla hair oil, only because it seemed like the only option available but as soon as I used it,it felt like a film of wrapping paper was on my scalp.

Years ago,when I first introduced Amla hair oil, I had received it from a friend who bought it for me. The name of it was Bio Amla Hair oil and I recall it had the ingredients mentioned and none were harmful but I have recently bought my own and it doesn't list the ingredients at all. This is very important info to know when purchasing a product distributed by another country. Make sure it is natural and authentic.

I will be receiving pure amla hair oil from a friend who is visiting India and if anyone would like to purchase 2 ounces of authentic amla oil please send me an email. LIMITED TIME OFFER.

Extensions and Natural Hair: How to manage Dirtiness

Use organic root stimulator cleanser or any cleanser to clean the scalp the first two weeks.

use a blotted sponge, soak it in a mixture of shampoo, baking soda and water

and use it between the braids, on the scalp

After letting it dry, place nourishing serum/oils on scalp.
As well as itch relief for braids. This will greatly reduce the clogged dirt.

Thoughts while Reading "Tenderheaded: A comb-bending Collection of Hair Stories"

Skimming through this book I realized that some women have serious issues about hair.
A passage titled RELAX YOUR MIND! by Jenyne M. Raines boggled my mind because it is promoting a relaxed mind that accepts the norm. Are we not the original woman? If we are, only intuition can tell you whether you should relax your mind as well as your hair and allow the bald spots to begin forming.


In this passage the author states that "I'll probably never be wild about my nose, but I've always loved my hair" and later on states "I don't look good with braids, and no curly Afro...Relaxed hair is part of how I see myself."


Is that not doublespeak? How can you love your hair, yet not let it breath for a bit.


REAL THOUGHT:

There is no evolving past the imitation, unless you realize you're imitating them while they're imitating you and calling it equal.

Frying: A Poem. Video coming soon!

Frying

I cook up something every month

It’s the same thing rolled up in the same sauce

I cook up something good, unimaginable

I cook up my tresses, my locks

So It can fit in

I cook up something good

Crack in my kitchen

This is golden

No more kink

Just straight no real story to tell

Just straight and to the point

I want my jungle back

Because I never was a cave dweller

No sun hater/blocker

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